OP, a 29-year-old man, and his wife, who is 26, have a 4-month-old baby boy. Since the baby’s birth, they have been very particular about who came around the baby. When he finally organized for family and friends to meet his baby, he did not know he would end up fighting with his brother about it.
So over Memorial Day, they planned a pool party and cookout and invited their family and friends to meet their son because they were finally comfortable about it. Many of them would be meeting the baby for the first time.
You Can Bring the Dog
OP’s 25-year-old brother, who lives 3-4 hours away, had not met the baby either. Before OP’s baby was born, he held many pool parties, and his brother would drive and come along with his German shepherd. OP says he is indifferent about his brother’s dog but generally considers it well-behaved.
His brother always asked whether he could bring his dog to the parties, to which OP always agreed but with rules. For instance, he had to clean after his dog, and the dog had to stay outdoors and not get into the pool. They have only had an issue once or twice over the years, so generally, OP thinks things have been working well.
New Dynamics New Rules
Now that OP has a baby, he does not want his brother to bring his German shepherd. OP informed him of this new rule, and he was annoyed. His brother thinks everyone loves his dog, and it should not be a problem if he brought it.
OP took a firm stand, saying he had only seen his brother’s dog around adults and not children. He insisted that it was not worth the risk and that it would ruin their relationship if anything happened. He asked his brother to leave his dog at home if he wanted to come.
Wrangles Ensue
His brother was super annoyed and called him a jerk and added he wouldn’t be coming.
OP does not understand how his brother would pass on meeting his nephew just because he could not bring his dog.
The party came and went, but his brother refused to compromise. Everyone was asking for him at the party, and all OP told the guests was that his brother had to stay with his dog for the weekend.
They have not mended their relationship since then. Is OP a jerk for the new rule?
The Masses Weigh In
Don’t we all love when posts elicit mixed reactions from Reddit users? This was one of those posts that divided people on who was wrong.
The first group thought that neither OP nor his brother was on the wrong side. For instance, one user said, “NAH. (no ***holes here) You’re a new parent. Of course, you’re worried about your kid. He’s not an ***hole for deciding not to come, though. He lives far away. He’d have to leave his dog for a long time.”
Another said, “Yeah, that would be a no for me too, just because of the distance. It would be no big deal if it were in town, but this sounds like an overnight thing, and that means a babysitter or boarding. NAH seems like the right call.”
No Need for Adult Tantrums
Many other commenters felt that OP’s brother was not wrong for turning down the opportunity to meet his nephew. However, they think he was wrong for throwing tantrums and calling OP names because he could not bring his dog.
One user said, “Asking to bring a dog is fine. Declining to come when the brother said “no” is fine. Getting mad at his brother for saying “no” and calling him names is the ***hole part. The brother was clear that it was the principle of the issue and not the logistics of finding care for his dog.”
It’s Their House
Another said, “He is an AH, not for declining but the way he did. He blew up on OP, acting as if they are out of line for no longer allowing the dog at their home. It is OP’s home at the end of the day, and even if it wasn’t because of a new baby, OP is within their right to change the rules about the dog at any point in time.”
And finally, “Brother wouldn’t be an AH if he simply said that he wouldn’t be able to come. But making a big stink about wanting a large dog with no history around children at the home of a 4-month-old baby is an adult tantrum.”
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Originally posted 2023-10-11 17:00:39.
