A woman in her early 30s posted on the TwoXChormosomes Subreddit, narrating her bad experience with an interviewer.
The original poster (OP), a Ph.D. holder, is in a heavily male-dominated field. She says she has five years of experience in her field but was looking for a change of things, so she applied for a job in a new field.
Nasty Interview Experience
She says that since she was interviewing for a job in a new field, she had no substantial knowledge or experience. She, however, adds that the new field is highly related to what she was working and experienced in. It, therefore, would not be difficult for her to learn while on the job.
Many people have had terrible interview experiences, and OP just had one of those typical experiences. She originally attributed it to not being so experienced in the field she was trying to get into.
Toward the end of the interview, the interviewer asked OP if she was related to a “Steve.” I assume it could be because they shared surnames or something.
It turns out Steve was OP’s father, who was also in the same field. The interviewer goes ahead and says that he knows Steve professionally. It looks like they worked together at some point.
So, at the end of it all, OP asks for feedback, and the interviewer goes ahead and tells her where she screwed up. He adds, “I know it can be difficult, but maybe you should ask your daddy for advice.”
Genuine or Condescending?
OP says she found that comment inappropriate and incredibly condescending. The interviewer did not even know what relationship OP had with her father. Also, saying that to a woman working hard to grow in a career can come off as chauvinistic.
She believes she has a right to be independently evaluated and not put behind her father’s shadow.
If anything, she says she would not want to work at that company anymore, even if she got hired.
What do you think? Is OP overreacting, or were the interviewer’s remarks uncalled for?
This post had other women opening up about the condescending chauvinistic remarks and experiences they have received. For instance, one commenter said, “A psychiatrist once told me his rates in my first meeting with him so that “daddy” would know what he’s paying. I was in my 30s, had never mentioned my father or family, and used my big girl insurance for the visit. That was my first and last visit with that person.”
A good number of Redditors advised OP on what she should do next. One commenter said, “Please go and leave a review on Glassdoor complaining about the response and use a direct quote of the daddy comment,”
Another said, “I would report that statement back to the HR contact at that company. Super inappropriate.”
“Gross – Find his boss on LinkedIn and respectfully quote him in an email with his boss cc’d. F*ck that guy.”
And lastly, “This person is already being condescending. As much as you may need or want this job, I suspect it might not be best for your mental health considering the interviewer’s attitude – even before you start working for them. “
Should OP let it slide, or should she take steps to bring the interviewer to task? Should OP take the job in case she is offered it?
Read the original post here.
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Originally posted 2023-04-13 05:09:06.