Boyfriend Spills the Beans on Girlfriend’s Secret Apostasy

Rachel Akinyi

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A portrait of very frustrated and angry woman.

OP (original poster) thought it was not bad to “out” his girlfriend to her mother. His girlfriend had dropped the religion she had been brought up in but was not ready to inform her parents. He introduced himself to her mother and immediately “outed” her.

When his girlfriend called him out, he posted on the “AITA” subreddit asking whether he was in the wrong.

Not Ready Yet

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OP’s girlfriend was born and raised in a religious family. She had upheld her religious beliefs until two years ago when she started having doubts. She does not hate religion or anything; she just thinks it is not for her.

OP met her about a year and a half ago, but they have been together for a year. When OP met her, she was still questioning things, but after five months, she officially became agnostic.

She has never told her parents because she wanted to be sure of her decision.

Outed Her to Her Parents

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Recently, they were out when they met her mother. Her mother went up to them and asked how she had been. OP’s girlfriend started stuttering and was not sure what to say.

At this point, OP took it upon himself and introduced himself as OP’s boyfriend and went ahead and said his girlfriend was not part of the religion she was brought up in.

Wrong Place, Wrong Messenger, Wrong Timing

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OP’s girlfriend and her mother were caught off guard.

OP’s girlfriend asked him why he said that. He thinks it has been a long since she dropped her Islam religion, so it should not be a problem for her parents.

OP’s girlfriend and her mother walked away chatting. Her mother was shocked but said it would take time for her to adjust. She said that as long as her daughter was happy, she would have to adjust and be happy for her.

He Thought Things Turned Out Great

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According to OP, things turned out great.

Later, his girlfriend messaged him, telling him it was so out of line for him to say something that was not in his place. She said she was going to tell it to her parents privately when she was ready.

He Was Wrong

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In his defense, OP said things did turn out great.

She thinks he is an ***hole and untrustworthy for revealing her new status to her parents.

Later, her friends and siblings texted OP, calling him a coward who could not shut his mouth.

The Masses Weigh In

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The commenters agreed that OP was an ***hole and revealing the information to her mother was not in his place.

One user said, “Wait. You meet Mum for the first time, introduce yourself and decide to inform her that her daughter no longer practices their religion, all in one conversation? Who the hell do you think you are? That was not your information or the time to share it. You are a RAGING YTA”

Potentially Dangerous

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His girlfriend’s mother seemingly understood and was nice about it. However, many commenters noted that what he did was potentially dangerous as people have been killed for dropping their religions.

He had no reason to out her when she was not ready.

“He outed her, which could have endangered her; there was no reason for him to do so and to do it the first time they met. That girl needs to run for the hills.”

Manipulation Tactic

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Many users labeled him as manipulative. He seemingly wants to break all the relationships she had so that he can have her all to himself. Many noted that it was a control tactic.

He Does Not Respect Her

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One user said, “He does not respect her; he thinks he has a right to control and have a say over her family and the relationships she has with her family. She can not trust nor respect him, and it will get worse if this is the very first time he meets them. Then how will he control future interactions? All I can see is a controlling manipulative ***hole.”

He Thought It Was Odd He Was Invited to His Niece’s Wedding but After Driving for 600 Miles He Found Out Why

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A Reddit user shared a story about how he was invited to his niece’s rehearsal dinner 600 miles away, which he thought was a bit weird, but he was about to find out why he was invited.

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I Don’t Work Here! Karen Wants Her To Serve Them in a Restaurant She Does Not Work At, “Don’t You Take an Oath or Something?

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The original poster (OP) is a student who works as a waitress on the side. However, this story takes place at a restaurant where she DOES NOT work, even sometimes. She was there as a customer, but someone said no.

I Don’t Work Here! Karen Wants Her To Serve Them in a Restaurant She Does Not Work At, “Don’t You Take an Oath or Something?

She Went Back Home After Her Husband Chose to SHARE THE BED With His Friend and Asked Her to Sleep on the Floor

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One Reddit user posted in the “Am I the ***hole” group on Reddit, asking whether she was wrong for cutting her vacation short and returning home after her husband asked her to sleep on the floor instead of the bed.

She Went Back Home After Her Husband Chose to SHARE THE BED With His Friend and Asked Her to Sleep on the Floor

They Were Invited to a BBQ but Then Showed Up to An Empty Grill Because The Hosts Thought They Were Bringing The Food

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A Reddit user shared a story about how they were invited to a BBQ only to realize they were expected to bring food for the occasion. The hosts became annoyed when they didn’t bring food and refused to buy.

They Were Invited to a BBQ but Then Showed Up to An Empty Grill Because The Hosts Thought They Were Bringing The Food 

Who Is In the Wrong, the Thief or the Food Owner? Office Lunch Thief Suffers Anaphylactic Shock and Ends Up in Hospital

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A Redditor posted in the “Am I the ***hole” subreddit to ask whether he was in the wrong for sending his coworker into an anaphylactic shock.

Office Lunch Thief Suffers Anaphylactic Shock and Ends up in Hospital: Who Is In the Wrong, the Thief or the Food Owner?
 

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