PhD Applicant Receives Insulting “Ask Daddy” Suggestion From Job Interviewer

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A woman in her early 30s posted online narrating her bad experience with an interviewer.

The original poster (OP), a Ph.D. holder, is in a heavily male-dominated field. She says she has five years of experience in her field but was looking for a change of things, so she applied for a job in a new field.

Nasty Interview Experience

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She says that since she was interviewing for a job in a new field, she had no substantial knowledge or experience. She, however, adds that the new field is highly related to what she was working and experienced in. It, therefore, would not be difficult for her to learn while on the job.

Many people have had terrible interview experiences, and OP just had one of those typical experiences. She originally attributed it to not being so experienced in the field she was trying to get into.

Do You Know Steve?

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Toward the end of the interview, the interviewer asked OP if she was related to a “Steve.” I assume it could be because they shared surnames or something.

It turns out Steve was OP’s father, who was also in the same field. The interviewer goes ahead and says that he knows Steve professionally. It looks like they worked together at some point.

So, at the end of it all, OP asks for feedback, and the interviewer goes ahead and tells her where she screwed up. He adds, “I know it can be difficult, but maybe you should ask your daddy for advice.” 

Genuine or Condescending?

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OP says she found that comment inappropriate and incredibly condescending. The interviewer did not even know what relationship OP had with her father. Also, saying that to a woman working hard to grow in a career can come off as chauvinistic.

She believes she has a right to be independently evaluated and not put behind her father’s shadow.

If anything, she says she would not want to work at that company anymore, even if she got hired.

What do you think? Is OP overreacting, or were the interviewer’s remarks uncalled for?

Redditors Take

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This post had other women opening up about the condescending chauvinistic remarks and experiences they have received. For instance, one commenter said, “A psychiatrist once told me his rates in my first meeting with him so that “daddy” would know what he’s paying. I was in my 30s, had never mentioned my father or family, and used my big girl insurance for the visit. That was my first and last visit with that person.”

A good number of Redditors advised OP on what she should do next. One commenter said, “Please go and leave a review on Glassdoor complaining about the response and use a direct quote of the daddy comment,”

Report Him

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Another said, “I would report that statement back to the HR contact at that company. Super inappropriate.”

“Gross – Find his boss on LinkedIn and respectfully quote him in an email with his boss cc’d. F*** that guy.”

Already Being Condescending

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And lastly, “This person is already being condescending. As much as you may need or want this job, I suspect it might not be best for your mental health considering the interviewer’s attitude – even before you start working for them. “

She Went Back Home After Her Husband Chose to SHARE THE BED With His Friend and Asked Her to Sleep on the Floor

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One Reddit user posted in the “Am I the ***hole” group on Reddit, asking whether she was wrong for cutting her vacation short and returning home after her husband asked her to sleep on the floor instead of the bed.

She Went Back Home After Her Husband Chose to SHARE THE BED With His Friend and Asked Her to Sleep on the Floor

They DESTROYED His Skid Loader and Didn’t Pay Him Back Now They Want Him to “Get Over Himself”

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Is he holding a grudge, or does he have a legitimate grievance?

A Reddit user has shared a story about how a 10-year-old grudge has caused a rift between her brother-in-law (BIL) and her family.

They DESTROYED His Skid Loader and Didn’t Pay Him Back Now They Want Him to “Get Over Himself”

Woman STORMS Out of Her Baby Shower After Telling off Her DELUSIONAL In-Laws: Who Is To Blame for the Situation?

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Her in-laws were totally delusional, and she just lost it!

A woman, 27 years old, was expecting her first child with her husband. This child was the first grandchild in the husband’s family. Now, we all know the excitement and adoration that comes with the first grandchild’s arrival.

Unfortunately, it was not all jolly for this woman as her husband’s family couldn’t just accept the gender of the child.

Woman STORMS Out of Her Baby Shower After Telling off Her DELUSIONAL In-Laws: Who Is To Blame for the Situation?

Parking War: The Neighbors Keep Parking in Front of His Grandparent’s Home So He Made the City Put a Handicapped Spot There

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A Reddit user has shared his parking wars story after he got the city to put a handicapped spot in front of his grandparent’s house.

Parking War: The Neighbors Keep Parking in Front of His Grandparent’s Home So He Made the City Put a Handicapped Spot There

She Interrupted Her Husband’s Live Stream and Screamed At Him Live, On-Air After He Abandoned Their Child To Catch Up With His Fans

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A woman posted in the “Am I the ***hole” wanting to know if she was in the wrong for interrupting her husband’s live stream and going off on him after the man abandoned their child.

She Interrupted Her Husband’s Live Stream and Screamed At Him Live, On-Air After He Abandoned Their Child To Catch Up With His Fans

 

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Originally posted 2023-10-15 16:00:25.